CAN I GET a MAN WITH THAT?

Ask the Expert: MENu Dating Edition

In Ask the Expert, love stylist Tristan Coopersmith, author of MENu Dating: Taste-Test Your Way to the Main Course weighs in on her favorite confessions from canigetamanwiththat.com.

THE BATHROOM BREAK-IN: A new relationship is tested by the dreaded ‘no. 2’ Read the full story here.

CAN I GET A MAN WITH THAT?: This contributor went to extreme measures to avoid taking a no. 2 at her boyfriend’s house. We thought the ending was hilarious, but totally not worth the hassle. The serious question is — when is it OK to take a no. 2 at your boyfriend’s house?

TRISTAN COOPERSMITH: My guess is that her man has done the dreaded no. 2 at her place and all of the other ‘unpleasantries’ that come with being human… and I bet he never felt shy about it — a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do, right? Well so does a girl, even the lady kind! Here’s the thing, there are tell tale signs in a budding relationship that dictate if you have sticky value, meaning is this someone you might be able to go the distance with, like do you stop wanting to order from the man menu, do you always take his call when his name pops up on your phone… and are you comfortable doing seemingly unladylike things around him like an occasional no. 2, belch or pass of the gas. If you really aren’t, you might want to think about why you aren’t comfortable with your BF. Until then, I recommend this contributor pocket a trial size of room spray to cover up her mess since her getaway plans can’t be relied upon!

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MENu Dating: The More, The Merrier

In our new monthly feature, love stylist Tristan Coopersmith answers our 15 Questions, plus dishes on her dating philosophy — sample a buffet of men before settling on the main course. And because you rock, we’re giving one lucky reader a complimentary coaching session with Tristan (details when you read more).

Name: Tristan Coopersmith

Status: Married

Position: Love Stylist, Radio Host, Writer, Speaker, Author of MENu Dating: Taste Test Your Way to the Main Course

Who’s your favorite couple, living or dead, real or fictional (preferably one we wont see in the tabloids next week)?

There are so many. I love Marshall and Lilly on How I Met Your Mother, Mickey and Minnie, WALL-E and EVE, my dad and my step-mom, and I have to say, I’m pretty fond of my husband and me.

Have you ever offended anyone on a date?

Yes, I bought a guy who offended me about a half a dozen times during a single date, the book, Dating for Dummies as a parting gift. 

In one sentence, what do you do as a Love Stylist?

I help women architect and actualize their ideal love lives through creative exercises, therapy and coaching.  

Where do we meet this buffet of men you speak of in your book MENu Dating?

Where don’t you?! The whole world is one big dating playground if you skip through it with peripheral vision and an open for business sign. 

Who should we taste test? If we hate nerds, do we sample them, too? We love nerds, by the way.

Simply not all of one type is all the same, meaning not all nerds are created equal. A hot jock could totally be an undercover nerd and a nerd could be an undercover take-your-breath-away romantic. You have no idea what you really want or need until you try it on for size… so yes, I say have a bite of everything.

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