The Sexist and the City: The Anti-Carrie
D.C. blogger The Sexist thinks we have sexuality issues, and answers our 15 Questions on getting laid and finding a (wo)man with that, plus… what the feminist?! 
Name: Amanda Hess
Status: Relationshiped
Position: Sex and gender blogger at the Washington City Paper.
Who’s your favorite couple, living or dead, real or fictional?
Jack and Kate from Lost! Just kidding, they’re the worst — Sawyer and Juliet forever. But my favorite couple (dead) is Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre. “Hell is other people” is maybe not the most ringing endorsement of human relationships, but they were cute!
In one sentence, what do you do as The Sexist?
I write about all the big and little things that make our sex lives and our ideas about gender messy… and I make fun of people I don’t like.
For the record, what the ‘f’ is a feminist?
A feminist is someone who thinks it’s not feminist to instruct other people what it means to be a feminist. Seriously! Sarah Palin identifies as a feminist now, and we all have to sort of smile and nod because we’re not allowed to eject anyone from the club — there are enough people who want nothing to do with us, so we take whoever we can get. ‘Feminist’ can mean a lot of things now.
Does it mean you pay for dates?
I think it means that you arrive at a pay schedule based on a complicated algorithm derived from your salaries, who requested the date, and who paid last time. Usually you just put two credit cards down.
Have you ever offended anyone on a date?
I’m from that generation of humans that ‘doesn’t really date,’ so the few times I’ve been on one of those two-strangers-getting-to-know-each-other-before-doin’-it situations, I’m not sure I’ve gotten the chance to truly offend. Because I say I’m a ‘feminist,’ though, people I don’t know well are always on their tip-toes, expecting that they’re going to offend me. I write about a lot of offensive stuff for a living, so I’m really hard to offend.
