Ask the Expert: MENu Dating Edition
In Ask the Expert, love stylist Tristan Coopersmith, author of MENu Dating: Taste-Test Your Way to the Main Course weighs in on her favorite confessions from canigetamanwiththat.com.
THE BATHROOM BREAK-IN: A new relationship is tested by the dreaded ‘no. 2’ Read the full story here.
CAN I GET A MAN WITH THAT?: This contributor went to extreme measures to avoid taking a no. 2 at her boyfriend’s house. We thought the ending was hilarious, but totally not worth the hassle. The serious question is — when is it OK to take a no. 2 at your boyfriend’s house?
TRISTAN COOPERSMITH: My guess is that her man has done the dreaded no. 2 at her place and all of the other ‘unpleasantries’ that come with being human… and I bet he never felt shy about it — a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do, right? Well so does a girl, even the lady kind! Here’s the thing, there are tell tale signs in a budding relationship that dictate if you have sticky value, meaning is this someone you might be able to go the distance with, like do you stop wanting to order from the man menu, do you always take his call when his name pops up on your phone… and are you comfortable doing seemingly unladylike things around him like an occasional no. 2, belch or pass of the gas. If you really aren’t, you might want to think about why you aren’t comfortable with your BF. Until then, I recommend this contributor pocket a trial size of room spray to cover up her mess since her getaway plans can’t be relied upon!
REVENGE OF A DIRTY DICK: A sex-deprived job hunter learns the hard way that revenge is a two-way street. Read the full story here.
CIGAMWT: Revenge of a Dirty Dick has got to be one of our most tragic confessions yet. We felt bad for this girl — an STD, surgery on her vaj, and a jeopardized job search during a recession?! We’d want revenge on this dirty dick, too!
TC: Did he get what he deserved, absolutely, but rest assured the karmic universe is much more crafty than we could ever be. So instead of expending your minimal time and valuable energy on revenge, let karma do the work for you. Maintaining digital dignity is key as she found out in this world of cyber reputation dependency. There are even services that can help eradicte negative postings so it may be something worth looking into.
JUGGLING ACT: A birthday blunder brings an open relationship to a close for better or wors. Read the full story here.
CIGAMWT: This confession sounds like MENu Dating gone wrong. This contributor tried to have her (birthday) cake and eat too by inviting both of her ‘boyfriends’ to her party. We gotta admit, this chick had balls — but a guy would do the same thing.
TC: Ahhh yes… the infamous birthday party roster run-in. Been there, done that. It requires the primary juggling ingredient, which she had: honesty – Lance knew about Nate, Nate knew about Lance… but did they both know that each other were attending your party? In a sitch like this, you have two choices: 1) you feel so confident with both that you can tell them they are not the only guy diggin’ on you who will be there to avoid awkward kissing moments, or 2) you have to pre-employ your besties to literally be on standby all night covering you to make sure the two shall never meet. In the end though, it is always up to you to maintain your composure, equally balancing the attention given to both guys and your best bet is to flirt with everyone, playing the tipsy card if you start to get a little out of hand.
WIFE GOES ON: A divorcée discovers life after a broken marriage. Read the full story here.
CIGAMWT: Here’s an inspirational story for a change (tooting our own horn: Pepsi We Inspire thought so). We didn’t expect so many comments to pour in for Wife Goes On, but we guess everyone has experienced (or unfortunately, will experience) a devastating breakup that makes them feel like they may never love again.
TC: Isn’t it amazing how life’s greatest gifts often come wrapped in the most unlikely packages? Her story is one of strength, triumph and beauty and a gift in turn to all of us who have read it. The lessons she learned through her dissolved marriage, her untangled friendship and her great journeys abroad will take her to heights never imagined… and those are things to indeed be thankful for. Here’s to seeing life and love with eyes and heart wide open, accepting only the best… even if it means taking a timeout and trekking to Southeast Asia and beyond to figure that out.
THE BROOKLYN PSYCHO: With a date this hard to stomach, she should have just followed her gut. Read the full story here.
CIGAMWT: We were torn on this confession — half the team thought it was tragic and the other half thought it was hilarious. What girl agrees to a date with a guy she’s skeptical about after only ‘a decent time on the dance floor’? Sounds like Russian Roulette.
TC: Awesome lesson learned. A gut feeling is one never to be ignored. That instant trigger that she had in the club and then had again in the bar, I imagine was powerful and sick feeling. Never doubt yourself at the encouragement of others, or at the mercy of romance. After all, if it is something truly wonderful, shouldn’t it feel wonderful from the start?
Congrats to acp9489 for commenting on 15 Questions with Tristan Coopersmith and winning a complimentary love coaching session — happy MENu Dating!
